You want to give your children what they deserve. You work hard so they can live a comfortable life. The problem is that you might end up spoiling them. There’s a fine line between being a good parent and someone who spoils. You don’t want to be the latter. These are some ways to give your children what they want without spoiling them.
Create a realistic and fair reward system
If you want your children to get a reward, they have to work hard for it. In doing so, they realize that nothing comes easy. If they wish to get the best in life, they can’t keep asking from you. When they grow up, they become less dependent. You will feel more confident about what lies ahead.
Make sure the rewards are commensurate to the accomplishments. Otherwise, it’s like giving them away, and they won’t mean anything.
Not everything should be rewarded
Just because your children did a great job doesn’t mean it requires a reward. You can make your children feel good using other means. It includes an expression of appreciation. You can also write a note to recognize positive behaviour. If they ask for a material reward, you can negotiate with them.
Provide counter offers
When your children become more mature, they learn to ask for favours from you. They will also promise results in an exchange of something. You can motivate them by giving counteroffers. If you believe they’re asking for too much, a simpler option would be better. You can meet them halfway. Both parties will win if you do so.
Don’t easily give in
Your children will eventually get to know you and what makes you feel good. They will find a way to convince you using their charms. Since you love them, it’s difficult to resist. However, it helps if you stick with your agreement. You can’t create a shortcut for them to get what they want. Otherwise, the behaviour will keep repeating. Try to resist the urge of falling for the demand even if they try to look cute.
Make sure your rewards have value
Instead of giving random rewards that cost a lot, you have to look into their value. Some of them might be expensive, but beneficial. Bringing our children to establishments with an indoor playground or sensory play equipment is one of them. Your children will learn a lot from visiting these places. They can improve fine and motor skills. They can also enjoy playing with their siblings. It’s an opportunity to practice playing with other children when they play elsewhere in the future. It’s a fun reward but also educational. Call these establishments first and request a reservation to bring your children there.
Hopefully, you can create a fair reward system and make your children feel loved. When you believe you already went beyond what you should give, take a step back. You don’t want to raise spoiled children who won’t listen to you. They will try to get their way out of everything, and it’s not ideal.